December Musings | Ho Ho Ho and … Stuff

Ahhh. December. The best time of year.

Time for cozy sweaters and socks and fuzzy blankets and everything that screams “hygge!” Light those candles, plug in those fairy lights, and let’s get ready for the holidays, shall we?

November was a wild month. The very first day our daughter started daycare, I missed a step going into the basement and rolled my ankle. I spent the next three-to-four weeks limping around my house. That weekend, Nora caught her first daycare illness – an awful viral rash – which resulted in sleepless nights and some of the worst days we experienced as parents. Having a baby who you cannot calm down and make happy is heartbreaking.

Then, it was my 30th birthday (fun!), but then, we all got sick again. But we are finally out of it (so far)…

And here we are! Another month. My daughter is TEN MONTHS in a few days, and we are about to say goodbye to 2022.

Who knows how that happened.

What I’m up to this month

This month is just going to fly by, but I am starting out the weekend with a trip to Newport with my best friends, and then the following weeks and weekends will be consumed by holiday parties, holiday decorating and baking and shopping and celebrations. I doubt I’ll have much time to read, but I know I’ll be filled with holiday cheer!

What I’m reading

  • The Winners by Fredrik Backman
  • Babel by R.F. Kuang

What I’m watching

  • Christmas movies
  • The Crown
  • Dead to Me S3
  • Rings of Power
  • Songs for Littles (IYKYK)

What I’m listening to

  • Christmas music on repeat
  • Lizzy McAlpine
  • Phoebe Bridgers
  • The Lumineers (always)

What I’m writing

Book reviews and blog posts … and … my first work of nonfiction! Stay tuned.

First Solo Trip | Lake Placid, NY

Back in August, I went on a trip with my friends without Nora. Yep – without my baby. And it was amazing.

I know what some of you may be thinking: How can she go on a trip by herself without her baby? And it’s funny, I thought the same thing too. But when my friend sent the invite via text, I remember exhaling with relief. People without kids still wanted to be my friend. They still saw me as me and not just a mom to Nora.

Before Nora, I was a traveler. (Before the pandemic, notably). My husband and I loved checking out new cities, and we even stamped a few countries on our passports. Before Nora, I was a performer. A writer. A gardener. A cyclist. I loved all those parts of me, and I was having trouble blending “before” Kass and “new mama” Kass. So, getting this text from a close friend really meant something to me.

What I also found so amazing about her text was that she said, “I know it might be a lot for you to leave Nora but wanted to extend the invitation!” I remember tearing up at this. It would be a lot for me to leave Nora. But, at that point, I was burnt out. I was a month and a half in from returning to work, I was inundated with work tasks and home tasks, and mom tasks. My cup was empty. If there’s anything I learned from postpartum is that I have to fill my cup in order to be the best mom to Nora.

So, I shared the text with my husband, who gave me a very enthusiastic, “YES! GO!” So off I went.

If you’re wondering how I did postpartum anxiety-wise, the night before was … rough. Like, picture me lying on my bed with my head in my hands as my husband rubs my back, rough. But, I tried to remind myself it was only for one night, two full days, and Nora would be JUST fine with my husband.

And she was! And I was fine too.

The drive up was about 4ish hours, but when you have two friends in the car and lots of jams, the time goes by fast. I brought my Baby Buddha portable pump and packed my entire bottle collection and a big cooler to put the bottles in. I pump every 3.5-4 hours, so I only had to pump once on the way up. During the trip, my friends were amazing, and we made plans around my pumping schedule so that my supply would stay up. We made sure to bring the cooler with us for bottles and had an Airbnb with a fridge to keep the bottles cold overnight.

But enough about the bottles; let’s talk about these views.

I am excited for more adventures to come – and even more excited to bring my daughter along.

November Musings | This is 30!

Hello! A little late to the musings game, but it’s been an intense month or so over here!

October was filled with work trips, pumping in airports and missing my baby. I spent the first two weeks of October traveling to St. Paul, Minnesota and Los Angeles, California for work. We also went to New Hampshire with our friends and their kids and enjoyed a weekend away. Then, it was Halloween and getting Nora ready for her first week at daycare!

Nora started daycare the first week of November … and … well … caught hand foot and mouth. We spent the week of my 30th birthday in the nursery, holding our screaming baby and cursing the daycare gods. BUT, we are all better now and our little one is back at daycare loving life!

30, flirty, and surviving

I celebrated my 30th birthday last week, receiving a giant bouquet of flowers from my sister-in-law, cupcakes from my cousin, and other packages and warm wishes in the mail and over the internet. Ian and I went out to dinner and I got two glasses of prosecco and we ate a 6-course meal. It was *chef’s kiss*.

That weekend, Ian surprised me with a visit from my best friend who moved to the West Coast last year. I did not see that coming (cue sobs). We spent the day eating and laughing and watching Gilmore girls with a still sick baby, but I wouldn’t have had it any other way. On Saturday, we hosted about 30 people at our house (cue more sobs) for a birthday party. It was a blast, and I really felt the love.

People ask me if I am excited or nervous about my 30s. I’d have to say that while my 20s were the most formative years of my life, they were also the most awkward and uncertain. I have grown a lot in the past year, becoming a mom and taking steps to improve my mental health, so I think my 30s will be the best years yet.

What’s up for the rest of November

There’s really not a lot of time left! This weekend we are attending a Thanksgiving party with our realtor group (insert nerd emoji), and then next week I am taking some time off for the Thanksgiving holiday. Then, the day after Thanksgiving … it’s tree time! We found this perfect tree farm last year, and learned that all of their trees sell out the day after Thanksgiving. So, twist my arm! Starting a week from now, our house will be all Christmas! Hooray! Then, the Saturday after Thanksgiving, our town hosts a Stars Hollow-esque Christmas celebration. They close main street for walking traffic and you can listen to carolers, eat piping hot soup, look at gingerbread houses, be merry, you name it. We are SO excited!

Plans for December

December is, expectedly, filled with TONS of fun stuff. The first weekend of December is a work holiday party, a trip to Newport with my hometown friends to celebrate our 30s, and cookies on Sunday. The following weekend I am hosting our book club group and an additional small group of friends on Saturday. Then sprinkled in-between we have Christmas shopping, cookie baking, holiday movies, and so much more. I love this time of year, but it goes by so darn fast!

What I read in October and (so far) in November

  • Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (And More Life to Live) by Eve Rodsky
  • Tomorrow, and Tomorrow, and Tomorrow by Gabrielle Zevin
  • A Conjuring of Light (Shades of Magic #3) by V.E. Schwab
  • Carrie Sotto is Back by Taylor Jenkins Reid

What I’m reading

  • Babel by R.F. Kuang
  • The Winners by Fredrik Backman
  • Unmasked: My Life Solving America’s Cold Cases by Paul Holes

What I’m listening to

  • Have I Told You This Already? Stories I Don’t Want to Forget to Remember by Lauren Graham
  • Christmas music (duh)
  • Goose
  • Midnights (3 am version)

What I’m watching

  • The Crown
  • Rings of Power
  • Gilmore girls
  • Christmas movies

October Musings | Spooky Season!

Hello. Happy October. Welcome to the first installment of my monthly musings!

I was originally going to create a separate newsletter where I bug you all every month and share what I’m reading, what I’m listening to, what I’m watching. Stuff like that. Then I realized that I already have this platform and followers and why send you to a different place?

So, here we are.

Welcome. Thanks for sticking around.

Anyways … October. One of the best months. The best color (yes, it’s a color). October is the start of the colder months in New England which means cozy sweaters, apple spice everything (move over, pumpkin spice), hot beverages, Halloween, Thanksgiving, and the holidays!!

Goodness, the best time of year.

Looking back at September

September was a great month. We went to Rhode Island over Labor Day Weekend and I had some of the best ocean swims. We went to Concord, MA, for our six-year wedding anniversary and I got to see Louisa May Alcott’s Orchard House for the first time. I ran my first 5K, we built our own scarecrow, and we went apple picking.

In September, I read one book. ONE! My weekdays and weekends were jam packed, and I found myself reaching for the TV remote or exercising over reading … but that’s OK! Everyone has their months, right? The book that I read was Finlay Donovan Knocks ‘Em Dead, and I cannot wait for the third one!

OK, let’s look at October.

What I’m doing

October is a busy travel month for me. I am going on two work trips in St. Paul and LA, and we are going on a family vacation in New Hampshire with our friends the day I get back from LA.

Halloween is right around the corner, so I’ll be doing a lot of spooooky things, like watching kids Halloween movies mixed with campy horror films and working from home to my Danny Elfman playlists. I am super excited for Nora’s first Halloween, and have a few costumes up my sleeve.

What I’m reading

  • A Conjuring of Light (Darker Shades #3) by V.E. Schwab
  • Babel by R.F. Kuang

What I’m listening to

  • Danny Elfman playlists
  • Halloween score
  • Goose
  • Joni Mitchell, always
  • The Lumineers
  • Lizzy McAlpine
  • Carrie Soto is Back by Taylor Jenkins Reid

What I’m watching

  • Halloween movies
  • Gilmore girls
  • Rings of Power on Amazon

Hope you liked my October Musings.

What are you up to this month?