2022: The Year of Embracing Joy

This particular blog post has been tough to write because let’s be honest … I am having a very hard time welcoming a new year right now. I think we all are, right? With the new variant spreading across the world and its existence impeding on the safe and happy arrival of our baby, it’s hard to stay positive … especially when I decided that my theme for 2022 is “Joy.”

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What I am trying to achieve in 2022 is very similar to this picture here. We are all at the top of this hill looking down at a vast, dark, impossible void. While I don’t want to pretend it’s not there, I do want to take moments and turn towards the sun, stretch out my arms and welcome some light and positivity where I can. I write this very carefully. I don’t want to lose sight of where we are in the world and how much work we have to do. I am luckier than others, I know this. I want to play a role in making our world a better place, but I also recognize that I cannot be an active member of society if I do not take care of myself. It’s a privilege, and I struggle with that awareness.

The world just feels heavy again. I thought we were moving in a positive direction, but now another variant is making me afraid. I am afraid to leave my home again; I am afraid to get sick; I am afraid to get my loved ones sick; I am afraid that my baby will get sick. How can I find joy in so much darkness?

I think that’s why joy is the right theme for 2022. I am determined to find some light in this darkness. My daughter’s arrival in 6 weeks will be the ultimately light, and I don’t want that to dim. I want to also be a positive light for her and most importantly, a positive light for myself.

If you’ve been around for a while, you know that each year, I choose a theme. Back in 2015, I took some advice from Gretchen Rubin and decided to form habits rather than create resolutions in the new year. Since then, I have purposefully stuck to my themes to live a happier life. And it’s worked.

In 2021, my theme was to spark creativity, particularly in my writing, my home, and my music. Looking back at this year, I met my theme in many ways. While I wrote an entire Master’s thesis this spring, I also updated my blog regularly for the first time in a long time (yay!). I also participated in NaNoWriMo and started my first book! We have continued to add our own special touches to our home, and this year, I discovered a love for gardening, a new creative outlet. I learned new songs on the guitar, and I even posted a few singing videos and participated in virtual cabarets with my friends. While I didn’t start my own online bookmark store (oops), I am proud of what I achieved this year.

2022: A Year of Joy

As I enter a new chapter in my life, I aim to live as joyfully as possible. I’d like to embrace and experience joy through many outlets in my life, and I’d also like to spark joy for others, whether that is through my writing, performing, or charitable acts. As a mother, I believe that if I am taking steps to feel happiness, my daughter will also feel that joy through me.

When I think of a year of joy, I imagine adopting a few practices:

Meditation and Yoga: As a new mom, I want to make time for myself to feel grounded and calm. I plan to mediate for 10-15 minutes per day (with the help of the amazing Calm app), and practice yoga at least twice a week. While this may be difficult with a newborn, I am grateful that I have a partner who can help push me to meet these goals.

Practicing Mindfulness and Gratitude: While these are somewhat synonymous, I do want to break them down separately to explain my intentions with both. I recently read in Breathe Magazine (highly recommend) that it’s important to pause during your most mundane routines and find joy in those moments. Whether it is making a pot of tea or feeding my baby on the couch, I want to teach myself to stop and be mindful of the simplicity and peace in those routines. Meditation and yoga will help with mindfulness, and being mindful will help me feel gratitude, an emotion that I aim to focus on every day to help boost my happiness. (See this post).

Exercise: As someone who regularly combats anxiety and depression, exercise has always been a lifesaver. This pregnancy has been a little rough with round ligament pain and sciatica. I’ve been advised to avoid rigorous activity, and now at 34 weeks, walking is a painful task. Once I am healed after giving birth to our daughter, I aim to slowly get back into exercising, working out 2 times a week and increasing that to 4-5 times a week. I miss my Peloton, and can’t wait to get back in the saddle (literally).

Planting: I mentioned that I discovered a love for gardening this past year. In 2022, I want to continue plant and beautify our outdoor space. I am excited to bring our daughter outside, breathe in the fresh, spring air, and get my hands dirty. Planting seeds and watching them grow throughout the spring and summer will bring me joy, and it will also help spark mindfulness and gratitude. I love feeling connected to our planet.

What about you?

What are your goals/habits that you’d like to form in 2022? Please share in the comments below.

Happy New Year to my readers. Be well. Thank you for being here. Thank you for being you.

Do you have a kudos file at work? Make one!

It’s been some time since I sat down and wrote about self-help tips. Most of my blog has been focused on travel, which is fantastic, but I originally started KeepitKassual to share happiness tips with others that I have found helpful. This particular topic has been on my mind for a few months and I am super excited to share it with you—especially if you need a happiness boost in your job!

In any day-to-day, it’s hard to press the pause button through all of the meetings, to-do lists, and big projects that eat up your day at work. One day, I found myself troubled with my “go go go!” lifestyle at work and realized that I wasn’t taking time to give myself a mental high five at all of the awesome work I was doing. Whether it was a well-crafted press release or a beautiful creative project, I was not sitting back and appreciating a job well done. So, I started to give myself a pat on the back and recognize when I did something well by writing myself “thank you” and “awesome work” messages in my journal I keep at work. It really did help!

I also noticed, however, that I was not necessarily tracking the positive feedback I was receiving from my co-workers and other employees at my organization. I am lucky to be in an organization where we do congratulate each other and I realized it would be of great benefit to keep track of the compliments I received at work.

One morning, I created an electronic folder in my email and titled it “Kudos.” From then on, every time I received an email detailing positive messages like “great job!” or a “thank you so much!” I would file it in that folder. It’s such an easy way to track how much others appreciate you!

Since then, I’ve collected a handful of emails from my teammates, to my supervisor, and from our CEO with positive messages about my work ethic, teamwork, and work quality. Rather than skimming over the email, taking those as an “OK to proceed” and move on to the next project, I started to save them. I have found this ritual to be super fulfilling for it offers a sense of positive closure to a project. I take time to appreciate my hard work, someone else appreciates what I have completed, and I file it in a folder that keeps track of all my accomplishments!

It’s also a useful tool for when you may start to feel down at work. During the busy seasons at work, I start to feel run down and sometimes hopeless that I won’t get all of the tasks done on my to-do list. The moment I start to lose faith, I skim my kudos file and I immediately feel confident and motivated that I can not only get the job done but also get it done well!

If you find yourself feeling down at work, try to find an innovative way to file your “kudos.” Do you write it down on fun sticky notes and place them in your office or on your desk, or do you file them electronically so you can look at them wherever you are? Whichever way, filing your kudos and successes will help boost your happiness and make you feel fulfilled in your job! And don’t forget to share the love as well!

Cheers to 25 Years!

Hey all—today is my 25th birthday!

This morning I woke up next to my amazing husband and I took some time to be mindful and reflect on my life so far. I thought about all of my achievements, but I also reflected on the challenges and obstacles I have faced. Everything that I have experienced has made me the person I am today. Even in the last few years, I have experienced growth that I could have never imagined. This past year, I started graduate school, grown in my profession, celebrated my one-year wedding anniversary, traveled, improved my habits, developed a steady writing ritual, and so much more. I am extremely excited to see what 25 will bring!

I thought it would be fun to write down 25 things/values that I have learned and practice. I hope you have fun reading them, and that they have an impact on your life as well. Enjoy!

  1. Take care of yourself first.
  2. You are not defined by the way you look or how others perceive you.
  3. The best way to escape is to get lost in a good book.
  4. Sometimes there will be people who are in your life for a short amount of time. Let them go, but appreciate the time you spent with them.
  5. Show up. Be present. Work hard and show initiative.
  6. Always keep a journal.
  7. Your siblings are a true gift, and they are your best friends for life.
  8. Be humble, but recognize your successes too.
  9. Your family is not just blood; you choose your family.
  10. Eat that piece of cake!
  11. Find something that is good for your soul. (For me, it’s crafting.)
  12. Watch the movies you love and read the books you love—even if it is the 20th time.
  13. Don’t tweet that. Write it down instead.
  14. Forgive yourself for your past mistakes.
  15. Take time each day to write down what you are grateful for.
  16. If someone has a different opinion, listen to them. Talk and compromise.
  17. Travel!
  18. Everyone has a story. Be patient.
  19. Hold on to friends who check in on you. Your best friends are those who you see every now and then and nothing changes.
  20. Success isn’t measured by the size of your home, your car, or material objects. It is measured by the quality of your character and your treatment of others.
  21. When you’re making coffee, always add an extra scoop for good luck.
  22. Put your phone down. Look around you. Live in the moment. Sometimes the best pictures are those you keep for yourself.
  23. Advocate for those who can’t.
  24. They are PHOTOSHOPPED. You are beautiful!
  25. Always stay true to yourself.

 

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The Mangiones Take on Philadelphia!

Hey all! Ian and I are headed to Philadelphia tomorrow for a fun-packed weekend! We are ready to take in the sights, eat some delicious Philly cheesesteaks, and dive into some U.S. history! We have never been to Philadelphia before, so we are excited to explore a new city and are open to suggestions/tips.  I enjoyed sharing our adventures in Montréal and I think a lot of readers found it enjoyable to read, so I hope you can also take some time to read about our trip this weekend!

Happy November!

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